Category Archives: How I can help

Are you stuck in a box?

I just heard a wonderful talk by Warren Berland about how to “get out of the box” to a freer self through a simple 2-step exercise.  You can read more about it on his website, but here is a quick … Continue reading

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Losing My Religion

There comes a time in many people’s lives when the religion of their birth no longer works for them.  Whether it is a philosophical or ethical decision, an excommunication or family issue – leaving a religion can be one of … Continue reading

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Provocateur, Mirror, Healer: how your partner can help you grow

“A person hasn’t any idea what their soul looks like until they gaze into the eyes of the person that they’re married to. And then, if they’re any kind of decent human being, they spend the next couple of days … Continue reading

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Valor: Find That Strength Inside You

Many of my posts emphasize the need for courage to grow as a person: courage to communicate directly with your mate; courage to acknowledge your weaknesses; courage to experience emotions you are afraid of…  But I think I have a better word: … Continue reading

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I Just Can’t “Get Over It”

Are you chained to your past?  Is there a traumatic memory, relationship, or series of experiences in your past you just can’t “get over”? Are you overreacting to things in the present that remind you of these past experiences? EMDR (Eye … Continue reading

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My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy can give us deep insight into what is limiting our experience of joy in life, but, in my opinion, its major benefit is in TRANSFORMING us into people who can experience that joy. Insight can only go so far, … Continue reading

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Going to Therapy Shows STRENGTH – Not Weakness

A friend once told me, when I was in the midst of defending myself, to give myself “room to grow.” She was right. By insisting that I was blameless, I was ignoring the chance I had to really grow from … Continue reading

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Stop Playing and Start Communicating

I have frequently called the beginning stages of a relationship the Ouija board effect, where slight moves from either member of the couple can move the other member in that same direction (e.g., toward or away from the relationship), which … Continue reading

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