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March 11, 2014

From Surviving to Thriving: how EMDR can help you put the past in the past

Something devastating happened to you. Maybe it was yesterday.  Maybe it was fifty years ago.  You got through it…somehow, but it keeps haunting you.  Small, everyday […]
July 22, 2013

Feeling Emotionally and Physically Drained? Tip #2: Getting energy from your worries

Feeling emotionally and physically drained?  In my last post, I talked about the amazing pool of energy available to you by loving yourself.  Giving yourself permission […]
July 18, 2013

Emotionally and Physically Drained?

We all feel drained sometimes.  Even on a beautiful, sunny day, our world can feel cold and overcast.  It is tempting to look for something on […]
March 27, 2013

Communicate Your Feelings Effectively… In 2 Simple Sentences

When our feelings flare up, we tend to communicate our feelings in the least effective way: we blame, criticize, manipulate, or demand.  The problem feels like […]
December 9, 2012

Why Can’t My Partner Listen To Me?! How understanding your partner can be threatening – and what to do about it.

“I don’t get it,” says a 30-something woman in my office. “He doesn’t seem to hear what I am saying. I can tell him over and […]
October 31, 2012

Mindfulness Meditations for Experiencing the Here and Now

The following are a few mindfulness breathing meditations* that can be practiced every day individually or in sequence.  No need for yoga poses or bulk time […]
October 4, 2012

Regaining Your Connection Through Couples Therapy

You used to be amazing together. You were open, supportive, understanding… passionate. Somehow, it changed. Maybe you have been drifting away from each other. Maybe you […]
September 11, 2012

The Shared Trauma of 9-11

On this infamous day eleven years ago, we each experienced something shockingly terrible.  Many of us vividly remember seeing the plane going into the towers, the […]
July 21, 2012

The “T” in LGBT: What does “transgender” mean?

Imagine going into surgery for an appendectomy.  When you come back to consciousness after surgery, you realize that something is different: you have been mistakenly given […]
July 3, 2012

WARNING: Being an Attorney May be Hazardous to Your (Mental) Health – Part II

Attorneys tend to far more depressed, anxious, unhappy, and even suicidal than most other professions.  In Part I of this series, I listed some of the […]
June 19, 2012

WARNING: Being an Attorney May be Hazardous to Your (Mental) Health

So… you want to be an attorney? Great!  Most of the general population views a career in law as empowering, lucrative, rewarding, exciting, and prestigious.  Parents […]
May 15, 2012

Are you stuck in a box?

I just heard a wonderful talk by Warren Berland about how to “get out of the box” to a freer self through a simple 2-step exercise. […]
April 30, 2012

Losing My Religion

There comes a time in many people’s lives when the religion of their birth no longer works for them.  Whether it is a philosophical or ethical […]
February 27, 2012

Provocateur, Mirror, Healer: how your partner can help you grow

“A person hasn’t any idea what their soul looks like until they gaze into the eyes of the person that they’re married to. And then, if […]
January 15, 2012

Valor: Find That Strength Inside You

Many of my posts emphasize the need for courage to grow as a person: courage to communicate directly with your mate; courage to acknowledge your weaknesses; courage to […]
January 6, 2012

I Just Can’t “Get Over It”

Are you chained to your past?  Is there a traumatic memory, relationship, or series of experiences in your past you just can’t “get over”? Are you overreacting […]
October 28, 2011

My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy can give us deep insight into what is limiting our experience of joy in life, but, in my opinion, its major benefit is in TRANSFORMING […]
October 27, 2011

Going to Therapy Shows STRENGTH – Not Weakness

A friend once told me, when I was in the midst of defending myself, to give myself “room to grow.” She was right. By insisting that […]
September 28, 2011

Stay Calm When Stress or Emotions are Overwhelming: A Quick Mindfulness Trick by Rose Rigole

Overwhelming emotions, such as anger, fear, sadness, worry, stress, and regret, can be debilitating.  The more we feel, the fewer resources we seem to have to […]
September 16, 2011

Five Tips for Finding Fulfillment

Feeling Stressed-Out, Overworked, and Unfulfilled? You’re not alone.  In 2009, Americans worked more hours per year on average than our Japanese counterparts and hundreds more hours […]
September 16, 2011

Stop Playing and Start Communicating

I have frequently called the beginning stages of a relationship the Ouija board effect, where slight moves from either member of the couple can move the […]